Do you lack self control or will power?
“Like a city, whose walls are broken through, is a person who lacks self-control.” Proverbs 25:28 (NIV)
The lack of self control can be found in every part of life. No matter what circumstance in which it exists, the shortage of self-discipline always leads to undesirable outcomes.
Over spending leads to debt, overeating leads to obesity, lack of exercise leads to poor health. The list could go on to include the use of drugs, alcohol, sex outside of marriage, deceitfulness and so much more. All of these are done because a person lacks willpower in that particular area.
Sometimes the lack of self control can be a symptom of a deeper issue such as poor self esteem, lack of self love, or even abuse as a child. However, other times the absence happens because we just simply refuse to deny ourselves.
I want it ,or do it, or want to eat it ,or got to have it. The desire starts to eat away at us, and then we begin to negotiate with ourselves mentally.
We say, or think things like, “Oh it’s just this one time, one drink, one affair”…you get the picture.
To put it bluntly, giving into ourselves in this way is a sin. It’s a behavior that we need to repent for and a desire we need to ask God to remove from our hearts.
When we use self control, we are in essence keeping a lid on those yearnings. This will eventually take over our lives and leave us with distressing consequences. So, what can we do to get over ourselves and kick this particular sin to the curb?
How to Get Over a Lack of Self-Control
Think of self control, or willpower, as a manager of sorts. It helps to manage what you allow in your body, mind and spirit. It protects you from the tricks of the enemy that would have you living just to satisfy your worldly desires.
When you deny yourself something you know is against the word of God. the plan of God for your life, you gain strength against the enemy.
With prayer you can begin to build a wall of protection against those things that you desire but are not in your best interest. So, start by simply asking God for help through prayer.
The more you pray the higher and stronger your wall becomes until finally it’s so big those desires will stop even trying to climb it or knock it down.
The Word says, in Mark 14:38 that we should watch and pray so that we will not fall into temptation.
The spirit is always willing, but the flesh is weak. We cannot have self-control without leaning on the spirit of God to help us through those difficult times where our wants and desires are raging.
Therefore, we must overcome the flesh and allow our spirit to guide us instead.